Sunday, January 20, 2019

Glennon Doyle Melton TED talk on youtube

I have never reviewed a TED talk before.

This one was excellent though. I feel like I learned valuable things from that 17 minutes. I listened through it 3 times to get everything.

Some highlights:

It's deceptive to think that addicts are liars. Rather they are typically sensitive truth tellers living in a world where sensitivity and truth are not acceptable.

We are expected to say "I'm fine" even when we are not. It is frowned on to be passionate or emotional about things.

Since we are truth tellers by nature we will find somewhere to tell the truth.

I am not fine - I am eating too much.
I am not fine - I am shopping inappropriately.
I am not fine - I am drinking to excess.
I am not fine - I am cutting myself.
And so on and so on and so on.

Glennon says we have to "learn to be brave enough to tell our own story while being kind enough not to tell anyone else's story."

She says every day the sun rises and invites everyone to show up and do the next right thing. Even if you are scared. Even if you are shaking.

Write. Serve people. Help make this world a place where sensitive people don't have to hide.
Stop doing long enough to think; share; listen.

Paraphrasing Glennon:

I used to numb my feelings and hide. Now I feel my feelings and share. Feelings won’t kill me. They are guides that tell me what is the next right thing to do. Lonely – connect with someone. Pain – help someone else. Overwhelmed – ask for help. Honor my feelings as my own personal prophets. Be still – don’t run. Peace, dignity, friendship will come.

I love this way of thinking about my feelings. 

Aside from being wise - Glennon is naturally funny. I have not captured her humor here. You will have to listen to her TED talk for that.

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